Your healing journey always starts with you!
There can be hills and valleys for the most part. And then there is a space of sweet bliss where you are not too far up the hill and neither are you too low deep in the valley.
A stillness, an inner serenity overcomes you, then you realise this is from the work that you have given yourself permission to do. No judgment nor biased. The chatter that you once felt has come to a halt. A huge smile beams across your face and you know that this is because of your time and dedication to self.
I am Aisha Peters CEO of DAMALI-BEAUTIFULVISION CIC and I wish to share with you the power of reflection with journaling.
During my initial experience of bereavement when my daughter Damali Peters transitioned to the ancestral realm I was encouraged to write. To be honest at first it was an extremely tough and heart wrenching thing to do. Some of you may ask ''Why?''
Well, aside from being in sheer shock that I shall never be able to hold, let alone speak to Damali again, neither did I want to write about my feelings. Writing about my feelings in a journal would affirm that she was no longer here physically. I went to a space within me that was numb. And again writing about my feelings would mean that I would need to hold space for myself to feel because at this point I didn't want to share my feelings with anyone due to being in a place of deep sorrow.
The fact that I am sharing this here does make me feel some feeling of that moment to be honest. However, I no longer feel stuck in the pain and ''Yes'' I can happily say that I am in my journey of healing. It shall always be continued for my betterment. I am grateful for this moment that I can share with you four tips on how to journal through the pain.
1. Do not pressurize yourself to write tons and tons of pages about your feelings or events. To be honest writing one to two paragraphs every other day or even every 5 days can be enough.
Truth is, sometimes you need to be able to process your thoughts ; The what, who, when, why and where to get to the depths of your feelings and validation of them before writing. Take five to ten deep breaths, be still with no distractions and start bit by bit, day by day. The rest shall be in alignment when you are ready.
2. Shadow Prompts can be a helpful way for you to not only face your trauma. It also allows you to strip away the layers so that you can nurture the traumas of your bereavement that lay deep within. Trigger warning! Shadow Prompts can take you deep into your feelings so be prepared or ask your counsellor or therapist if they can hold space for specific shadow prompts to support your healing.
3. Take the time to think about where and how you would like to see yourself in the here and now and or in the future.
Be precise with all of your positive outcomes. If you continue to write like this in this way for up to twenty eight or forty days you shall notice a shift in your thought process.
For example if you have been more withdrawn from social events and it is something you would like to change, write about the change that you wish to see. Write yourself into your story with a more positive outlook. This technique is called scripting.
4. Take a walk in nature as often as possible and journal when in this space. One thing that I love to do for myself is to walk by water and pour from pen to paper about how I am feeling.
Do your best to be aware of the differences within you, before you arrived on your nature walk to after. You shall hopefully feel and write about the self awareness of your feelings and what you feel. Nature has a way of realigning us closer to our natural state of being. The more you write about this the more you shall be aware to connect with self in a more positive manner if there is an imbalance.
Remember you can always check for your local nature parks and environments nearest to you. And I bet you shall find some amazing and wonderful places.
Sending you these beautiful tips that I use for my continued healing journey with Serenity Love and Light!
Aisha Peters 11th May 2023 copyright.
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